Emotional responsibility

 Emotional responsibility

Emotions are  the reactions on something  is  taking  place  outside or   inside  you. To depress your emotions  is  equal to block the way off  for the traffic of  nuclear power into reactor. It blows  up!   

The  responsibility  is a capability of understanding the consequences for your every action ( thought, feeling, emotion, actions) and for every of your "not doing" action. You cannot be  free of the  responsibility, however we try really hard to throw it off. This is the magneto aim in your body  ( your consciousness). It doesn`t matter  whom you are trying to drop the responsibility on  - the result of your actions and non- actions will stroke exactly you. Any your actions and non-actions  have the destination point – YOU! Make your  skin off but the result will strike exactly you, no matter what kind  of body you use.

When you try to take  others responsibility on yourself, the result will strike  those  people  whom you were trying to “help” in such a way. And they will get the strong point to yell or beat you for such a help that wasn`t asked  for.

Emotional responsibility  is a capability of understanding the consequences your every emotion and feeling what you choose to  experience: express, depress  or transcendent it.

The  human being has a  freedom  to choose what  exact emotion and feeling or state to experience: express, depress  or transcendent it. But we rare  know about this  function of  ours.

So,  there are some news you could miss or skip in your childhood:

You are  not the hostage of emotional level. You are the Master. Emotions doesn`t own you. It is you who have the emotions.  Emotions are the  ship. Ship is  going where you  direct it. If you want to spoil your day just choose to be  injured, irritable and you will succeed in  coming into the harbor of  “What a Suck Day!”

If you want to come  into the harbor : “Great happy day!” you just need to choose to experience joy, tenderness and gratefulness. If  aggressive emotions and feelings come – do not depress it, but  comprehend (understand) its core and  find fears and  pain within these aggression. To understand and to transcendent  your aggression feelings and states.

If what you want to manifest ( dreams, desires, purpose and needs) refers only to yourself (body, energy, space) – so fuck these sick  others reactions and manipulations. They have  nothing to do  with your actions if your actions  are  concerned only with you one.

Fuck* - doesn`t matter. You understand  that  these “others”  just want to  feel good and pleasurable at your expense.

These sick  others reactions and manipulations: - Irritating, offences, envy and jealousy, complaining of different kinds and many aggressive reactions as a disagreement  to what you want to manifest and what  refers  only to you one!

- I want you to do some plastic. I want you to born me a child! You need to get a job and so on.  – Here, you replace the  responsibility of your  personal happiness into other  people. It`s  like you say: I will be  really happy only when you do what I want  you to do! Because, I consider if you  manifest MY (not yours) desires – it will be  better for you!

The points when your desires  refer  only to you  one:

- I  want to move to another country at my own expense. I do not want to get married. I am gay.I want to be  guitar-player, not office-worker.

So you  do not have any reason to feel guilty for your desires and actions. Fuck up others  sick reactions!

Fuck up!* - go away, fuck off. Skip it, understanding  that  these “others”  just want to  feel good and pleasurable at your expense.

If other  person chooses  to spoil her  or his  day with offences, contempt and  irritating, just because you do not want to  provide happiness and  joy for  him or her – so that is  the  responsibility of that  person and  has  nothing to do with you.

For  an example, you  can hit the table screaming :Fuck you!!! Or, you can just say: You behavior is piecing me off! You can confess in your fear and pain, aggression and say simply about it. But you can also replace it with different manipulations. You can choose to  say: It scares  me! If  to replace it with manipulation, you begin to yell and blame.

You exactly have the responsibility of what  emotions and feelings, states to experience. What emotions and feelings to understand, to depress and to express outward. And the most  important  how exactly  to express your emotional states and feelings: screaming, beating, manipulating  with guilt or  drawing, painting, singing and dancing.

If you have problems with emotional responsibility, the first attribute is  the feeling of guilt and the fear to hurt.  If you do not want to understand that another human being has the freedom to choose what emotions and feelings, states  he wants to experience. If you consider some person  stupid and not able  to make decisions by himself refer  to  his emotional state - that is the real problem. If you  consider yourself to bear other person responsibility for moods - that is the real problem.

- I am afraid to have a tattoo because my mother will be yelling.

 -  I do not get the divorce  because  my mother just love  my  husband (wife) .

- It will hurt my father if I confess that  I  do not want to get married and have children. (I am in  a depression and do not why I am drinking alcohol all  the time, .)

When we do not want to understand what it is the  emotional responsibility,  we ignored yourself or  the  others.

When you neglect yourself.

You are afraid to hurt (feeling yourself guilty) the  others  and   don`t  let yourself  do what you want to do.  You treat your life irresponsibly.

When you neglect the others

You want to get  happiness and joy and use the  others as instruments for it. You  purposely do shit and meanness, irritate others  otherwise day has  passed for nothing. If you are in a bad mood  you must be sure that  those people around you are in a bad mood too! If they are still not - you will "help" them to spoil their good emotional state. So, it is no matter for you what the others feel and want to do   -  you just use them as instruments  to get  happiness and  joy.

When you  neglect yourself, you sharply define all your actions to the condition that the  others incapable to understand themselves and accept different aggressive states.

Let`s get a closer look at the situation.

The  mother  offenses when I am talking to her  directly with anger voice.  When I tell her the truth it hurts her.  I know, when I tell her the truth on her blaming and claims, she  begin to  scream  that I am telling lie.  That is why I am talking to my mother not very often.  And when we are talking  I am mostly  trying to be silent in this conversation. And when I want to say something to my mother, I choose to tell her a lie for not to hurt her again.

We were taught that the most  important thing in life is to be the GOOD PERSON.  Now, we definitely know: to be yourself is very BAD! You need to be the  GOOD PERSON!

When we are not able to understand  that every  person bear its on responsibility  for its emotions and feelings to experience - so, we begin to show hypocrisies instead  of  respect. This mechanism is so strong!!! Try to see in with me: the more human (person) is dear to you the more  you  lie and choose to hide your  true emotions and feelings for not to hurt the person you are so in love with.  And we aware our love to these people who is  dear to us, but  all the time we try to keep the distance, because we always feel pressure next to them. So, when we are far from people we  love and care we feel lightness, joy,  happiness and freedom. And then we  feel guilty for this. But the  point not with the  other people. The  point is  with you inability to understand that every person bear its responsibility for its emotions and feelings.  If the  person chooses to suffer, offence and to feel pain, so all you can do  is to ask him:

-  Why do you make exactly this choice? Why do you choose pain and suffering  instead of understanding and gratefulness to the Universe for wisdom and experience within this lesson.

When you neglected the  others and constantly are trying to hurt, humiliate, offence, and purposely to be rude toward them to spoil their good mood  for  yourself feel  better: happy and joyful - you strike the preemptive attack.  If you find out to be such a person, you  just scare to  be hurt and that is why  you are trying to hurt others before they do it to you.  As we often perceive the love feelings as  weakness, we begin to defend ourselves and strike again and again those "loved one" to be strong and confident for their expense.